“Calling in” sounds a lot better to me than “calling out.” I mean, sure, there are times when neither one will be effective. And there’s always going to be some disagreement on whether a person’s words or actions can actually be called “wrong” (such as the debate over Daum and her choice of prom dress). But generally speaking, it seems self-evident to me that you have a much better chance of convincing someone to at least engage in a little self-reflection *if* you reach out to them in a respectful and compassionate way.

In fact, your comment reminded me of the story of Daryl Davis. He’s actually managed to change the minds of members of the KKK by doing a little “calling in” of his own. It takes a really special person with an incredible amount of patience, understanding and empathy to take it to the level he has, which I quite admire. And I doubt there are many people who could bring themselves to even attempt what he has done, let alone see it through to the end. But the important point is that it seems to be a relatively successful strategy for him. And if it can work on the friggin’ KKK, I’m guessing it can work on just about anyone.

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